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If you don’t define success for yourself, someone else will

If you want to reach a goal, you need to know where the goal is located, how to recognize it, what route you need to take to get there, and what obstacles you might encounter. It’s similar to planning a trip. In fact, it is a trip of sorts – a trip from where you are right now to where you want to be.

It always amazes me how little time and effort people are willing to put into planning. I know, it’s not sexy and certainly not fun to plan how to reach your goal, even if that goal is a romantic hideaway in Bali. It takes work. But guess what? Everything in your life has its value based on how hard you or someone else had to work to get it. What we get for nothing has very little value.

So the first step in becoming successful is defining success. What will it look like? How will you feel when you reach your goal? Where will you be? What will you be doing?

For me, the easiest way to put all the pieces together is to write a story that describes your success and the steps you took to reach your goal. Write this from the perspective of having already reached your goal. Here’s an example:

Sitting at the breakfast table, I look out the picture window of my house overlooking the Ocala National Forest. It seems hard to believe that only 10 years ago I was toiling away in the corporate world. It was a safe and comfortable life – or so I thought. With the recession of 2009-2012 everything changed. I had to reinvent myself. I started a small business helping people manage their time and soon the business started growing. After several years the business grew so much that I couldn’t manage it any longer, so I sold it to another company. Now I work from my beautiful house, writing reviews and blogging on whatever interests me.

I have found that if you write a story about what you want to happen, it’s much easier to define what your success will look like. And it’s important to have a very clear picture in your mind, as you will need that picture to inspire you when life gets hard.

So try this for yourself. Pick an area of your life, grab a latte and write out how your life will look after your reach your success goal.

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